Desire vs Obligation: Reclaiming the Yes That’s Yours

We live in a world that trains women to say yes out of obligation.

Yes to keeping the peace.

Yes to what’s expected.

Yes to carrying weight that was never ours to begin with.

But here’s the truth: every yes that isn’t rooted in desire is a slow leak of your power.

It drains you, it silences you, and it keeps you living for everyone but yourself.

Being Untamed means reclaiming your yes.

It means remembering that your agreement is not a default setting.

It’s a choice.

A yes given from desire is alive, electric, unstoppable.

A yes given from obligation is heavy, hollow, and forgettable.

You don’t owe your energy, your body, your time, or your love to anyone.

Not because they asked.

Not because they expect it.

Not because you feel guilty.

You get to decide.

You get to choose the yes that is yours, the one that feels like freedom, not a cage.

And when you start choosing desire over duty, your whole life shifts.

You stop living on autopilot.

You stop rehearsing someone else’s script.

And you finally start experiencing a life that feels like yours; untamed, unapologetic, and fully alive.